BONNIE OWENS DIVORCED MERLE HAGGARD IN 1978. THAT SAME YEAR SHE STOOD UP AS MAID OF HONOR AT HIS NEXT WEDDING. THEN SHE WENT BACK OUT ON THE ROAD AND SANG HARMONY BEHIND HIM FOR TWENTY MORE YEARS. People have never known what to do with that story. Some say it plainly: she had no self-respect. A woman who couldn’t let go, taking a paycheck to stand three feet from the man who left her, night after night, smiling into a microphone. Here’s what that reading misses. Bonnie Owens won the ACM’s Top Female Vocalist award in 1965. She has a co-writing credit on “Today I Started Loving You Again.” She’d already been married to Buck Owens before Merle. She wasn’t somebody’s shadow. She was Bakersfield. She stayed because the harmony was hers. Nobody else could sing behind Merle Haggard the way she did, and both of them knew it. Her friend Norma Jean, who did the same thing with her own ex-husband, put it simply: they kept singing backup after the divorce because they loved singing that much. She was still touring with him in 2000. She died in 2006, at 76, of Alzheimer’s. Some folks call that weakness. What do you call it?
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