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HE DIED ON HIS OWN BIRTHDAY. THEN HIS CHILDREN STOOD OVER HIS GRAVE AND SANG HIS OWN SONG BACK TO HIM Merle Haggard was born in a boxcar, did time in San Quentin, got pardoned by Ronald Reagan, and turned it all into 40 number-one hits. “Mama Tried.” “Okie From Muskogee.” “Workin’ Man Blues.” He didn’t sing about the working class — he was the working class. On April 6, 2016 — his 79th birthday — double pneumonia took him at his ranch in California. A week earlier, he’d told his family he wouldn’t make it past this day. Nobody wanted to believe him. Three days later, they buried him on that same ranch. Merle had planned the whole funeral himself. He picked Marty Stuart to officiate. He asked Connie Smith to sing “Precious Memories.” He told Willie Nelson and Kris Kristofferson to come and sing whatever they wanted. His own children stood over the grave and sang “Today I Started Loving You Again” — their father’s words, in their father’s dirt. Then Bakersfield held a public memorial — 500 people packed a church and sang “Just a Closer Walk with Thee” under a photo of the man who was born in a railcar two miles away. Willie posted a photo of the two of them with five words: “He was my brother, my friend.” A year later, Nashville filled Bridgestone Arena — Willie, Kenny Chesney, Miranda Lambert, John Mellencamp — on what would’ve been Merle’s 80th birthday. He planned his own goodbye. And even then, the world wasn’t done saying his name. What Merle Haggard song hits you the hardest?